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by Oyeniyi Ajao - Tuesday, 30 April 2019, 11:57 AM
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Okay, here I am again with continuation of the counselling sessions:

 

2.      Communication

Before now, I knew well that communication is a two way system of message encoding and decoding, with some level of noise in between. My job would be to ensure shared meaning at all times but what I didn’t know before now is that ensuring shared meaning is no easy task.

It would have been easier if men could develop effective encoding and decoding machines to handle the complexity of communication, especially with the opposite sex. But I found out the solution is to ensure effective shared mean from the start of every discussion, because the slightest distortion in meaning from the beginning can actually mean a total mess. So, get it right the first time.

 

3.      Finance

Though, I have never been a big fan of full joint account, in which all I have goes into the same account with my wife’s, but I have learnt the easiest way to survive financially in marriage is to be transparent with your earnings and allow her be a major part of every financial decision. Not doing so could mean getting regular demands beyond your capacity and the effect of this can be disastrous.

 

4.      In-laws

There is no easier way to manage this aspect of marriage than to do unto your in-laws what you’ll do unto you parents. Recall that the bible makes us to know that the first commandment with a blessing is to take care of ones parents. I have resolved to treat my in-laws as my parent and I know well that my wife will do the same.

 

I surely hope that I do live up to expectation because that is the safest thing to do. I will also urge you to do likewise, as advised by a pastor, “use your common sense”. And I pledge to do my best.