Blog entry by Oyeniyi Ajao

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by Oyeniyi Ajao - Tuesday, 30 April 2019, 1:54 AM
Anyone in the world

All the way to the altar, the feeling of love had my heart in an indescribable working position. What is happening to me, I asked myself. The rhythm changed and the feeling became funny; funny because I couldn’t explain it. I had several times asked friends how it felt, but this felt different from all I had been told. I had increased joy at the new life ahead of me, but yet the fear of living up to demand. I took confidence in the many counselling sessions, in church, in books and with older friends and family members. With this I marched to the altar.

 

I was trained by a man with the philosophy that the man should be the super-dad and super-husband at home irrespective of the situation. Here I am now, trying to be the super-husband for a start, ensuring full protection and provision for my wife; immunity from the troubles of life, while ensuring a mutual contribution to the progress. This in no way excludes the need to be a loving husband even in the other room. “Can I do this?” I asked myself at the altar before the yes I do? I said to myself “yes”, and then, “yes” to her. And here now is reality.

 

For the sake of love, I have been a different man in the past few days. For example, I have lived before now in an apartment with low water pressure and I always managed to do all the house chaos with that, but right now I realized live couldn’t just continue that way. I cannot have someone’s precious little girl, for whom more than 30 full grown friends had to prostrate to earn her hand to suffer the ruggedness of my bachelorhood. With this, I have started refurbishment and remodeling of the apartment. “She is worth more than the stress and financial impact that I need to bear to get the apartment to her taste”, so I told myself. Truly, she is worth more and more I hope I get to do easily.

 

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