Osatohanmwen Dibor

Defensiveness is the quality of being anxious to challenge or avoid criticism. 

Defensive behavior can hurt relationships, individual well-being, ability to make decisions and productivity.

To achieve being less defensive in relationships is learning how defensiveness really works and how to manage it in a healthy way. Momentarily managing defensive behavior in is a bit more difficult. 

The first step to managing your own defensiveness is to know your defensive signs. Common signs include fast heart beat, stuttering, raising your voice, First take note of the way this manifests physically..

Steps

• Acknowledge it
• Slow down
• Check negative self talk
• Create an Action step
• Start over