Blog entry by Adefolake Adewusi
I once had one of those ‘oops I did it again’ moments aka I goofed and big time too. Up till then, I had maintained a clean slate (in my estimation) so you can imagine my unease, especially if you consider that I was in my final stages of the endeavour at the time. You know how it is that a sore thumb easily sticks out; and when it’s the last thing remembered about one, you can imagine it may become quite memorable for the wrong reasons and easily muddy up the clean slate.
Anyways, this note is not about throwing a pity party. Believe you me, I beat myself up about it well enough already. The real issue is, what do you do when you goof?
Well for me, first step is admitting you goofed aka confessing your sins. The counter party already knows you goofed anyways so denying, justifying, excusing, wishing it away or getting defensive would very likely make an already bad situation become worse.
Be apologetic and come clean, no need to lie in my view, though you may need to think up how you want to articulate the truth without causing further damage. Sometimes getting the views of a trusted ally on how to handle would help, after all two good heads are better than one right?
Make amends quickly, clean up your acts, be on your best behaviour, go and sin no more and of course take the learnings.
For me, the ultimate learning is about properly communicating to the appropriate parties, after all a closed mouth is a closed destiny and trust me the sleepless night that comes from goofing is not worth it and can be prevented most times.