I do have a question for Dr Eugene, or maybe he could discuss this in any other lecture he has on Bias and Amygdala infused terrorism. Often we take "Bias" as someone's opinion and the place we put things in our brain, which makes us see things differently. I do believe not everything counts as Bias, and we cannot blame people where they put you in their brain sometimes.
My question is dependent on the title of my blog. A philosophical concept that makes someone exhibits a lot of Eternal Return, which make certain occurrences to repeat itself. In a case where you have someone exhibit the same attitude over and over, I think it will be unfair to say, people who lock such person in a certain perception about them are biased. So if I confine them into a space of who they are, would it be wrong and make me Bias?
By Oxford dictionary, Bias is an inclination or prejudice for or against one person or group, especially in a way considered to be unfair. So I do not believe External Return like being known for certain wrong multiple times, could make observers Bias. They only bestow on you your values and not that they are unfair.
While we have come to the end of blogging for Management Communication at the Lagos Business School, I still look forward to Dr Eugene's view on my concern.
My eight year daughter is being encouraged to watch the news in the morning before school. Even though I threw that practice out the window a long time ago, I still have to encourage her.
Anyway, this morning she ran to her aunty first with the news that some states in the nation were not ready to re-open their schools. Her aunty who had listened to the headlines earlier told her that they were not referring to Nigeria. I was amused when I heard her reply "so if it is not Nigeria, how come they mentioned Sokoto..." and then she ran off to listen some more.
A few minutes later, I heard her from the bathroom, sharing more news with her aunty "the women are carrying placards and saying that daddies should stop raping their daughters" As soon as I heard "rape", I froze for a minute. I thought she was going to immediately demand the meaning of rape (as was customary)
You see, the unavoidable conversations have started to take place little by little. The questions are endless and we have no choice but to provide the answers, otherwise they would get them from other, mostly unsafe sources.
These questions are difficult to explain. Our parents did not help matters with the way they handled our own queries and so we are having to learn first hand how to deal with them properly. Dealing with them as they come is quite uncomfortable especially when you are caught off guard.
So, I waited for the question this morning and when it did not come, I was relieved. I had dodged a bullet. At least I can buy time to research on how the response can be given for her age.
The saying that talk is cheap became a lot
real when we were told in the Management Communication course that we will be
blogging thrice a week. It became such a difficult task. Ordinarily, this
should have been the easiest task in this MBA; because we are meant to blog
what we learnt in class (twice) and any other topic of our choice.
We have classes every week, so blogging material should not ordinarily be a problem. We live in a society that stories and issues abound, hence we also have a huge resource. Why then did this task became something tough? To talk is cheap, to put those thoughts/talk into writing is truly tough.
One thing I have learnt during this blogging season is the ability to tell a story. There may be other ways to blog, there may be other learnings which I have not even identified, but I have learnt how to tell a story. The story about what I learnt from the class and story about what I see around me. I have learnt how to put my thoughts together, trying to structure them and let someone else appreciate it.
The only sad part is that we did not seem to have the audience sharing these thoughts with us. Many of us never read what others wrote. I did, and I learnt some fantastic stuff.
Whenever I did not understand certain topics, I only needed to read blogs of some of us, especially that of Jane Ngene, and the class will make meaning. There were also learnings on life issues and some beautiful family stories (thanks especially to Ogbonne Adesoji who always shared her joy of motherhood. What a great wife and mother Oby is; I 'saw' it in her lovely heartfelt blogs). Antonia Oguntubi never failed to share the eternal joy she has found in Christ and I must comment that she is an amazing woman too. Ama Apakama begins her blog with a quote and then goes on to make serious topics flowery; what a skill. Oluwatoyin Adeleke, Ope Ashiru and my class Governor - Oluwasegun Babaleye are the keep simple and straight bloggers. By reading the blog of Ifiok Udongwo I got a book from her to read. Ifiok is obviously a voracious reader and it shows in her blog. Brenda Obasogie, the lady who, as a younger woman, did not know how to cook noodles, captured me when she blogged about her visit to Rome. Obidi Nwachukwu is the inhouse economic analyst and agricultural sector enthusiast who will always post his blog with pictures. No wonder we call him the CEO. Tare Majoroh will pass her message and then disappear. Ahmed Husaini, a Real Madrid fan, will blog once in a while but he will ensure that it is very long and highly analytical. Virtue Joseph, Efe Rhima and Edward Waji learnt to keep the message simple. Johnson Olalekan Idowu is a prolific blogger; he can drop ten blogs in a day. Lizzy Ayo-Vaughan is an intelligent and aggressive lady; read her blog if you doubt me. Thank you Mateen 'Korede Taomu for Jerusalama. Olayimka Aina, you suddenly disappeared. Olaoluwa Afolabi! This guy is sophisticated for me. I always need clarity around his blogs, and he is willing to share his thoughts. He mostly never blogs in ‘English’.
Now it is getting too long, and I have to stop.
I will not stop blogging. I may not blog thrice in a week anymore, but I will ensure I blog at least twice every month until I leave Lagos Business School.
Are you a good listener? This is a highly valued soft skill sought by all employers. After all, people with this ability are more likely to understand tasks and projects, build strong relationships with co-workers, and also be able to solve problems and resolve conflicts.
Employers will look for you to demonstrate listening skills during job interviews. Discover why good listening skills are vital in the workplace. Also, learn how to build good listening habits while avoiding bad ones.
The Listening Process
Listening within the work context is the process by which you gain an understanding of the needs, demands, and preferences of your stakeholders through direct interaction. A stakeholder could be anyone from your boss, a client, customer, co-worker, subordinate, upper management, board member, interviewer, or job candidate.
There are two components to active listening in the workplace: attention and reflection.
- Active listening involves holding eye contact, nodding, having good posture, and mirroring the speaker’s body language to show genuine interest in what they're saying. In addition to these nonverbal cues, you must also allow the speaker to finish their thought in its entirety.
- Reflection is the repeating and paraphrasing of what the speaker has said to show that you truly understand what they're telling you.
What Makes a Good Listener
Good listeners always strive to fully understand what others want to communicate, particularly when the statement lacks clarity. Listening demands the attempt to decode and interpret verbal messages and nonverbal cues, like tone of voice, facial expressions, and physical posture.
Active listeners also show their curiosity by asking questions. Do this, and you will make a great impression.
Through body language and other cues, good listeners subtly communicate to the speaker that they're listening. Additionally, they encourage and welcome the thoughts, opinions, and feelings of others.
One way to demonstrate active listening is to allow the interviewer to complete each question and statement before responding. Do not interrupt and be sure that your responses genuinely answers the question. Remember that it's perfectly fine to take a few moments to frame the right response. Doing so shows that you've fully absorbed the speaker's words and are considerate enough to formulate the best answer.
What Makes a Bad Listener
Interrupting indicates that your listening skills are underdeveloped. Likewise, responding in a way that fails to answer the question will reflect poorly on your listening skills, especially in a job interview.
Talking too much is also problematic, as proper conversations should be well balanced, with parties getting equal time to speak. Monopolizing a conversation prevents you from listening and the other party from fully expressing what they want to say. In the end, this will lead to you making a poor impression.
Looking distracted is also a quality of a poor listener. This could involve anything from avoiding eye contact to checking your phone or watch while someone else is talking.
First Semester ends tomorrow and I am not excited because there is no break what so ever.
We end we Management Communication and Data Analytics exams, both nerve racking subjects. Management communication is the abstract of them all as I do not even know what to read apart from slides and videos. I commit the rest to the Blood of Jesus as He is the only one that can help solve this matter.
Data Analytics is fair. I like mathematics and data interpretation. Its all logic when it comes to numbers but you see the topic "Probability", that is a bone that has come back to prick me right from secondary school.
The most exciting part (I retract my earlier statement of no excitement) about the end of the First Semester is the end of the writing of blogs. It is an era I have been looking forward to.
The objective of blogging was to help my writing. In a way, I was bumped about it because I am not a writer, I like writing short thoughts and keep it moving but to do this at an increased frequency out of my scoop was a big deal. I tried my best I think. I could have done better definitely but I would have love to get feedback on the writing. Sentence construction, content, framing, identifying my audience and all that good stuff.
Nevertheless, even if I did not get the feedback on the content, I found myself rereading my blog to check for grammar and structure to make it make sense. I took this new habit to my work and I have seen improvement. Writing emails without proof reading was a serious issue for me glad to now have that corrected.
I also tried to bring out creative juices from within me. It was nice for like the first week. It took so much time and energy that I gave up after my "The Devil lives in Lagos" blog. I guess the creativity is lurking inside there somewhere or simple a spur in the moment kind of skill. I am ok with the latter really. It is too much work.
I also found my self not contracting words. So words like cannot. Do not, Is not, are not to be contracted in a certain format, I cannot remember what format that is, but I applied it all to any aspect that involved writing.
Anyway, In all, I enjoyed every class. I will not forget Anibaba's constant search for deepness, and her never ending use of "Absolutely"; Proff Owolabi's (Baba) constant improvement of technology, Francis's patient way of teaching (dude needs to give a class to all LBS faculty on patience), Atinuke's listening class that has come to change my life forever, Chiemeka's old school way of teaching (the Blood of Jesus was definitely involved and still involved in understanding this man and there is a big difference. Oga has improved, I too have improved and the marriage is wonderful. The key to understanding Chiemeka's class was to understand him as a person, read and attempt your case as he expects before class. Do this and all your worries are gone. This taught me the definition of "It takes two to tango"); Bongo's excited knowledge of his work (He knows his stuff and talks with passion. You can always hear it) and then my fave ;) Eugene ( If you are not in class one minute before class, It will take more than the Blood of Jesus to get you out of that waiting room. All the saints have to intervene.
If you have read this blog, I wish us all luck in exams, I pray no one repeats any of these courses. See you intensive week
challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak;
be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid;
be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.” — Jim Rohn
The Nigerian government has backtracked on its earlier issued guidelines on the new banking Self-Certification Forms, saying the notice does not apply to everyone.
On Thursday, the Nigerian government ordered all persons holding accounts across financial institutions and insurance firms, to complete and submit self-certification forms to their respective financial institutions.
“We apologize for the misleading tweets (now deleted) that went up yesterday, regarding the completion of self-certification forms by Reportable Persons,” and that, “the FIRS will clarify Nigerians on the objectives of the directive.”
The FIRS earlier today made a statement, that the guidelines are only for non-residents, and people paying tax in more than one country.
“The Self Certification Form is basically to be administered on Reportable persons, holding accounts in Financial institutions, that are regarded as “Reportable Financial Institutions” under the CRS. Reportable persons are often non-residents and other persons, who have residence for tax purposes in more than one jurisdiction or Country.”
“The information that indicates an account holder is a resident for tax purposes in more than one jurisdiction, is expected to be available to Financial Institutions during account opening processes, for the KYC and AML purpose.” the statement read.
"What will you do if you were not paid? I will write"
It was just like yesterday when we were informed that it was mandatory for us to write three times a week.
The reactions were many and varied. The time has flown by and like all things that have a beginning it has come to an end. What to make of this journey? It is still a struggle to articulate, at the same time I have a few learnings:
- there are several prolific writers in our class, they just needed a jumpstart;
- lack of interest can be confused as lack of ability, they are two different things;
- a gift and a skill, as long as there is output in the end, one is not more special than the other;
- an outlet is important, several have come here to share their passions, problems and perspectives;
- the mind sure has limitless capacity, the level of creativity to churn out blogs by all means is on a scale of marvelous to hilarious!
Management Communication has shown as essentially that the best way to learn to communicate, is to communicate. The key goal of this exercise was to learn to consistently put your thoughts into words so it may become a thing of ease
In the Abuja metropolis an individual can own several houses and put them up for rent. The owner cannot manage the houses directly and engages the activities of a Caretaker, the latter is supposed to manage the property after collecting some percentage of the rent as charges.
A lot of these caretakers refuse to fix outstanding issues on the property because it will reduce the income payable to them, this is a greedy practice and puts the tenant under undue pressure to resolve the issues.
Someone once said that procrastination is being so proud to assume that God would give you extra time to do something he had already given you time to do.
Some say procrastinate is the thief of time, sell it isn't! Procrastination is wastage of resources. A billionaire (50 Cents) once said, time is the most expensive resource he has. He has returned cars, houses, cloths etc. After he had bought them and gotten his money back, however he has never been able to retrieve retrieve time spent.
No more words, like Nike!
Just do it!